—— WHERE THIS MIGHT MEET YOU
You may have arrived here because something in your experience of sex and intimacy feels isolating, confusing, or hard to name. On the outside, things might look fine. Underneath, there can be disconnection, desire that comes and goes, or a sense that something isn’t quite right, even when nothing is technically wrong.
What you’re feeling is more common than it feels from inside it.
I don’t think this is a malfunction. I think it’s a pattern — learned, protective, and still yours to change, in the body, not just the story.
My work isn’t about fixing you. It’s about growing your capacity to stay with yourself — with sensation, with another person, with your wanting — without disconnecting, overriding, or leaving your ecperience to manage what’s happening.
—— HOW I STRUCTURE THIS WORK
Three places I meet you. One arc: staying, meeting, carrying.
INDIVIDUAL WORK
Staying
Embodied self-relationship
COUPLES WORK
Meeting
Relational sexual dynamics
—— DIAGNOSTIC ENTRY
The Pattern Map
A short somatic mapping tool, not a personality quiz. It helps me understand where you are sitting right now — staying, meeting, or carrying — and what depth of work would actually meet you there.
WHAT I DO
This is where I meet you one-on-one — working with shutdown, disconnection, performance and overwhelm at the level of the body, not just the story you tell about it.
WHAT IT CHANGES
Your relationship to your own arousal, desire, sensation, and pleasure, so presence starts to feel available instead of effortful.
WHAT I DO
This is where I sit with two people at once — desire discrepancy, initiation, communication, boundaries, and repair, worked through the body, in the room, in real time.
WHAT IT CHANGES
How you and a partner actually meet each other in sex and intimacy. Contact, instead of negotiation or avoidance.
INTEGRATION
Carrying
Embodied sexual agency, ongoing
—— WAYS IN
WHAT I DO
This is the part that happens after the room — the ongoing practice of living from what we have rebuilt, in relationship, in community, in daily life.
WHAT IT CHANGES
Agency stops being something you only feel in session. It becomes the ground you move through desire, connection and power from.
—— BEYOND ONE-TO-ONE
The same lens I bring ton inviduals and couples — how connection, disconnection, pleasure and power live in the body — also shapes my collective and commuinty work. Drawing on years in community organising, advocacy, and law, I support groups and organisations to work with communication and power as they are actually felt between people, not just as they appear on paper.
There’s a right depth to begin at. Here’s how we find it.
—— DIRECT ENTRY
Work With Me
Individual and couples somatic sexology, in Melbourne or online. All new clients begin with an initial session, so I can feel into the right depth for where you’re beginning.
—— LOW-COMMITMENT ENTRY
Field Notes & Workshops
Not ready to work with me directly, or want to stay close to this work between sessions? Start with the writing, the workshops, or the private podcast.